Sometimes you can bump heads with your family, friends, or partner. Here are 5 tips on learning how to resolve conflict and build stronger and lasting relationships with others.
1. Identify the Problem
In order to solve any problem you must identify it first. Allow each person to voice their concerns and opinions. Putting everything on the table allows you and the other person to discuss the problem with all the information needed. Make sure that your voice is being heard but do not be aggressive. Remember the other person person might be just as or more offended than you are.
2. Listen Attentively
Make sure that you are actively listening to the other person when they are speaking and they should do the same. While they are talking you shouldn’t be thinking of your rebuttal to be argumentative. Pay attention to what the other person is saying and watch their body language then show empathy and state what you think should be done. Are they becoming agitated because you are not understanding or are you making lead way to fix the issue?
When you are trying to resolve conflict there must be an understanding. There is no way you can find a resolution if one or both parties are being misunderstood. Try to empathize with the other person. Put yourself in their shoes. How would you feel if someone has offended you or did not take your opinion or values seriously?
4. Consider Mediation
If you are having issues resolving the conflict, you may need mediation. Find an unbiased person or professional counselor to help mediate the situation. Having a neutral party involved can make it easier for you and the other person to come up with a resolution that will satisfy everyone’s needs. However it is not always easy or possible for everyone needs to be satisfied. If the other person is not willing to meet you half way to resolve the issue, you might want to rethink the relationship with that person. Depending on the relationship you might find it easier to end it if the other person is not willing to compromise.
5. Set boundaries
If you are able to resolve the conflict or have to walk away, boundaries should be in place. Informed the person of the consequences they may face if the issue arises again. Listen to the their boundaries and their expectations from you. If you or them have decided to end the relationship, both parties should respect that decision. It can be difficult losing a family member, spouse, or friend but it is better to end the relationship than expose yourself to toxicity.